As I right this, my partner, Ceren, is six months pregnant. The pregnancy was planned in advance and we probably spent a couple of years making sure things would go smoothly! By this I mean we made sure we would be ready to cope with a newborn baby and care for it to the best of our abilities.
However, one thing I’ve noticed is how different the relationship between us has become. I believe the bond, at some higher level, is strengthened as you both enter parenthood, as you are bound by the unborn child. I, as a husband, realize the importance of becoming more caring towards my wife, and ensure she gets the support she needs during this physically demanding time for her.
Let’s put it this way, the journey so far has been a bit of a rollercoaster!
The first thing I noticed is that her mental and emotional state varies much more. Sometimes she is incredibly happy and can’t stop her laughter, whereas at other times she is visibly irritable. This makes it a bit more difficult for me to approach situations, and she can really have a go at me if I make the wrong move at the wrong time.
This change in her emotions is a result of the changes her body experiences during her pregnancy. Overall I would say the changes are ‘interesting’. This is definitely true in the case of the time we spend during the night!
As I work full time, I’m not always around Ceren which I do think helps the situation a lot. I am around enough to help out with as many things as possible, but not to the extent that we are always together to the point we would more likely get annoyed with one another. However, I guess since it has only been six months, things will start to gradually become tougher as she goes further into her pregnancy.
One thing that has really helped us is the DreamGenii pillow. I came across this as the most popular maternity pillow in the UK and went ahead and got one, as Ceren was having some trouble sleeping during the night for many reasons. The pillow has really helped her feel more comfortable during sleep, and also acts as a sort of divider between us during the night so she (and I) gets her own share of space.
Anyway, I will probably more regularly blog about Ceren’s pregnancy, especially as we get closer to the birth of our child. But until then, I’ll blog about the random stuff I like to talk about!